tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2669443686448503780.post6977074754036286747..comments2023-11-02T04:52:39.412-04:00Comments on Note to Self: Who's Your Daddy?MJhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15508596301640968425noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2669443686448503780.post-12404180526164003502008-08-14T16:46:00.000-04:002008-08-14T16:46:00.000-04:00Teeni - Mind reading is one of my specialties :DTeeni - Mind reading is one of my specialties :DMJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15508596301640968425noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2669443686448503780.post-19416106133782990162008-08-14T01:46:00.000-04:002008-08-14T01:46:00.000-04:00Awesome post! Loved it. I am in total agreement ...Awesome post! Loved it. I am in total agreement with your feelings on these things. It's like you read my mind.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2669443686448503780.post-54820126246089801792008-08-13T15:14:00.000-04:002008-08-13T15:14:00.000-04:00mj (not to be confused with me) - That's perfect.....mj (not to be confused with me) - That's perfect... loving scared-shitness. I couldn't have described the feeling better myself.MJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15508596301640968425noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2669443686448503780.post-80507946423725175862008-08-13T15:01:00.000-04:002008-08-13T15:01:00.000-04:00We don't spank our kids. Not because of any sense...We don't spank our kids. Not because of any sense of moral issue, but really because we don't need to. <BR/><BR/>They're afraid of us, and that's all that matters. I can raise my left eyebrow at my kids in a restaurant, and they KNOW that it's time to stop. <BR/><BR/>When I was a teengager, I didn't have sex. Because I was SCARED TO DEATH of what my dad would do if I ever got pregnant. He was scary. I loved him, we talked a lot, but he still scared the shit out of me.<BR/><BR/>That's what I want for my kids. Loving scared-shitness.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2669443686448503780.post-3705537953843414812008-08-13T10:30:00.000-04:002008-08-13T10:30:00.000-04:00Matt - I agree. It doesn't take much to make a lif...Matt - I agree. It doesn't take much to make a lifetime of difference.MJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15508596301640968425noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2669443686448503780.post-18836101019847768252008-08-13T10:09:00.000-04:002008-08-13T10:09:00.000-04:00You know my opinion...a little discipline goes a l...You know my opinion...<BR/><BR/>a little discipline goes a long wayMatthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00976360898085871173noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2669443686448503780.post-63169692339735166672008-08-13T08:44:00.000-04:002008-08-13T08:44:00.000-04:00SM - LOL. I've heard this before...Sornie - Exactl...SM - LOL. I've heard this before...<BR/><BR/>Sornie - Exactly. A simple threat will generally do.<BR/><BR/>Danielle - Agreed.<BR/><BR/>Grit - I can understand your aversion. I certainly do not advocate beating your child (as it sounds like you were subjected to as a child). My cop's sister was subjected to quite a bit of abuse as a child, and she too still deals with the emotional issues. <BR/><BR/>The general idea I want to get across is not that beating/kicking/abusing a child is okay, but that discipline is a must as long as it is in a safe, loving manner - something akin to a slap on the wrist of a toddler. It may not hurt them, although they will cry, but it shows them that their parents are there to reign them in. When I was spanked as a child it was not the pain that averted me from bad behavior, it was the embarrassment of my parent's complete disappointment in me.MJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15508596301640968425noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2669443686448503780.post-86012530948255034032008-08-12T21:40:00.000-04:002008-08-12T21:40:00.000-04:00It is amazing that I went from a wise man when my ...It is amazing that I went from a wise man when my step-daughter was five to a pure moron when my stepdaughter was 16 to a freaking genius when she had a child of her own.pure evylhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04545185784186786104noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2669443686448503780.post-16232004756007763142008-08-12T18:08:00.000-04:002008-08-12T18:08:00.000-04:00Hi MJ,Well, my Mother and, later on, my stepfather...Hi MJ,<BR/><BR/>Well, my Mother and, later on, my stepfather beat the crap out of me for every imagined offense, until I grew enough to make such behavior more a hazard to them than to me. I still recall with great joy the first time my stepfather started to slap me but I managed to kick him in the balls first. While he was rolling on the floor holding his nuts, I kicked him in the head a couple of times, and informed him that next time I'd kill him. Slowly and gruesomely, so I could get off on a mental illness defense. He never lifted a hand against me again.<BR/><BR/>That same year, my sixteenth, my Mother, during a minor dispute, decided to kick me, which blow I blocked with my hip, breaking her ankle in the process. She never tried to hit me again either.<BR/><BR/>I managed, with great effort, to graduate from a minor state college and do fairly well in later professional life, despite my continuing emotional problems.<BR/><BR/>Our son, on the other hand, who was never subjected to any physical punishment, or even the hint of such, has just started his second year at a top notch law school, which he is attending on a full scholarship. <BR/><BR/>Beyond that, last time he was leaving from a visit, my son hugged me and said, "Love you Dad." The last time I saw my stepfather, my parting words were, "I hope you burn in Hell and I'm striving to find a way to torture you before you take your final journey."<BR/><BR/>In summary, I'm pretty much against the idea of hitting your child.<BR/><BR/>the GritAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2669443686448503780.post-55703000784643888362008-08-12T18:01:00.000-04:002008-08-12T18:01:00.000-04:00The threat of a spanking was usually enough to det...The threat of a spanking was usually enough to deter me from just about anything! Honestly, I can't ever remember actually getting one, but the possibility was enough to scare me off. I had the same removal of precious objects as a teenager, and I definitely thought I knew better than my folks - and now I can (usually) admit that they're right.<BR/><BR/>People complain about kids today, but I definitely think that it's parents today who are the problem. A friend of mine has two little girls that she's raising the same way we were raised - and they are the sweetest, most polite, best-behaved children I've seen in a long time. A well-timed and properly administered spanking is a very good thing.Daniellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16619816771799626993noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2669443686448503780.post-11331092092781755942008-08-12T16:20:00.000-04:002008-08-12T16:20:00.000-04:00The modern parent will do anything they can to avo...The modern parent will do anything they can to avoid alienating their child. I, on the other hand, have found myself disciplining the little bastards at family get-togethers because their parents won't reign them in. For me, growing up, even the threat of spanking was enough to shape me up.Sorniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13057350597607764166noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2669443686448503780.post-88911893376751020562008-08-12T15:40:00.000-04:002008-08-12T15:40:00.000-04:00hello? is this 911? yeah,, Well my son is not gett...hello? is this 911? yeah,, Well my son is not getting in the house. no, no hes not kidnapped. its not like that. hes just Standing outside with this arms crossed... can you send the cops to threaten him or something? no hes not causing any harm to himself... hes causing harm to me!? doesnt that count?Y of Fhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06840529996329950181noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2669443686448503780.post-33709677960148647332008-08-12T15:37:00.000-04:002008-08-12T15:37:00.000-04:00This comment has been removed by the author.Y of Fhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06840529996329950181noreply@blogger.com